can anyone explain what love is? i guess no one knows the answer. when 2 person fall in love with one another, will they mind about the background of the other? will they mind about their past? everyone has a past, be it good or bad. bad ones people will tend to forget it and move on, not letting it affect thier future. good ones will be kept in memory by them. i guess some people do, some don't. but if they truly love one another, such issues would not be a problem. to love someone so deeply, one can forget bout himself, can forget bout his friends as the love of his life has arrived. he will then spend his time cultivating the love, cherishing it, trying his best not to damage it. letting it grow day by day, protecting it from all kinds of negative effects. but as everyone knows, it takes 2 hands to clap. besides him putting in so much effort, the other half also have to do the same, if not it will be a one sided relationship. and also, you can't change the other party to change his or her ways to suit you. both parties have to compromise on such things if not either one will be hurt in the long run. people may think as long as both parties love one another, they will be happy together. actually, to be happy together takes time. and inevitably, there will be hiccups in a relationship. there is no relationship that is perfectly smooth sailing. there will be bound to be quarrels, arguements between both parties. these are the tests that each relationship has to undergo. if they passed these tests, their relationship will thus, be stronger and the bond will be closer. and also, never take one another for granted. cherish what you have, never letting them go. to love & to be loved is a great feeling.